When you want to give up

Updated: Feb 10

Suffering in silence...

Believe me when I say:

Your life is precious.

Even though you may think no one loves you, your business has gone bust, you've lost everything, you feel ashamed, embarrassed, at your wit's end... let's face it:

Life is a bitch.

Honestly. It's so darned hard at times. It's too much of a challenge. Sometimes, you get so exhasperated that you get to a point where you stop and think...

"It's just not worth it anymore!"

I totally agree. I get where you're coming from. I can understand the frustrations swirling around your mind and your gut. Those anxious sensations that grip you in the middle of the night when you look at your family peacefully sleeping, or during the day when you look at the bottom line and see no way out of the horrible situation you think you are trapped in.

Although I am a female, I can see that men have had a raw deal over the past decade or two. Everything of any value has been stripped away from you.

There was a time when you sensed a glimmer of status among your colleauges, there was a purpose to your life and you could go out and achieve anything. You had control over the situation that you were faced with and when you chose not to deal with it, you could turn around and you had a wonderful emotional connection with someone you trusted.

All those 'things' seem to have disappeared from men's lives. Not just yours, but all the men I've ever come across - having worked for the armed forces in a Welfare capacity, thousands have crossed my path over the years.

Life can be confusing, frustrating, embarrassing, painful. It can be so bloody horrible.

But... let me tell you, there are ways you can deal with it. You can get the answers you want. You can fix it and make it better - not only for you, but for those you believe have come to rely on you and what you provide for them.

One thing I'd like to suggest is, if you are thinking about giving up on your life today - remember that line from the slave in Russel Crowe's 'Gladiator':

"Not yet."

Rather than ending it now and, as a result, not having any more choice in the matter, give it another go. I can guarantee you that you have nothing else to lose by giving it another day. Just take one more step.

You might feel that heavy weight of the world upon your shoulders. You might hear everyone saying that you're stupid. You might well believe that you'll be thought of as a loser.

Let me put it this way... If you are just about to give up on life, then put your energy into this project - YOU.

Don't give up. Not yet.

Go on, I dare you. Stick it to life one more time. Give in to no one and nothing.

Go ahead, catch the lifeline I offer. Let me throw another ball to you - so you can grab it and search for the purpose you were born for.

Make your life mean something.

And, even though I'm risking that it might make you feel a little inferior, I have to say it anyway:

You might not have the funds just now (believe me, most people on this earth are living on the air we breathe at the mo), and that's A-OK. You don't have to pay me a penny for the assistance I offer while you're walking on Stuck Street without a stick.

However, if you really can't take something from someone (especially a woman!) without giving back something - if it makes you feel more of the man you were born to be, then you can DO something for me. Honestly, I don't know what that is right now, but we'll figure it out.

Go to my contact page right now, fill in the form and get in touch. Or if you would like help straight away, download my book on Depression - how to help yourself through it.


Kaye Bewley MA

Author’s Bio:

Kaye is a freelance publisher, author and certified psychotherapist with over three decades of experience. She is also a writer for various blogs about writing, publishing, travelling and health care.

Feel free to visit her site, where you can sign-up to follow her on her various social media platforms.

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