Loss & Grief

"A horse, a horse, my kingdom for a horse!"

Richard III, Shakespeare

As Richard III died on the battlefield, he was heard crying out for a horse as he had lost his.  The idea of a king wanting a horse so badly that he would give his whole kingdom for one seems like an overstatement. 

However, a horse on a battlefield during the 1600s, was a vital element of a King's or his Knight's armour and the loss of one can be comparable to losing a beloved pet that has been close to you, to make you feel so desperate that you beg, in pain, for the return of them.

The meaning behind the King's desperation can ring true for every person who has ever lost a beloved pet.    

There comes a time, at the end of a pet's life when you would give anything for time to reverse, to cease.  You beg for the clocks to stop just so you can be blessed with one more moment of precious time with them.  

When you lose a pet, a massive hole is created in your life.  One that you've never experienced before.  When a beloved dog is taken to the vet to be euthenised, there's the reaslisation that no one on this earth accepts us as readily as they did and you don't want to let go.  Equally,not one person in your life can treat you as your cat did - and get away with it with a purr and a swish of their elegant tail. 

When the time for their passing comes, when you know you have to face the final hours of being with them, you find yourself desperately begging for it not to be so.  You are willing to give anything and everything, for one thing you need above all else.  Their friendship.  Their companionship.  Their complete acceptance.  

Richard III's lines in Shakespeare's play have echoed down the centuries for a reason.  Anyone who has lost a pet understands similar phrases like, “I would give my right arm for one more day with them.”  And we would, without hesitation. 

But nothing prepares us for the reminders that come, in the long hours after their passing.  Reminders that can knock you side-ways and prompt tears to well-up uncontrollably.  Each passing day, you realise, is a day further away from the last precious time you had with them.  And still the yearning never ceases.

Sadly, when you finally realise it is not possible to have them back in your life, you fall into such a deep sorrow, one you have never known before.  It wrenches your gut and aches your heart so profoundly it feels as though there is no reason to go on.  There seems no more point to life. 

 

You realise no one ever prepared you to handle a pain like this - and no one seems to understand either.

Fortunately, I can help ease your sorrow and help you begin to see the gifts your pet gave you.  I can help you as you begin to continue with your life the way they would have wanted you to.

HOW IT'S DONE

When helping you through your grief, I would prefer to meet you face to face, at a location close to you.  

I provide individual counselling and/or mentoring and conduct them in as few sessions as possible.  There's the initial introductory session (half hour), then the first session which takes around one and a half hours.  Subsequent sessions are timed as close to the hour as possible.  

The initial introductory session 

This half hour session is free and can be conducted online - it is where we introduce each other and get to fill out the necessary (confidential) paperwork. 

The counselling sessions

For people suffering through loss of earnings, there is no fee for this service.  There's no need to feel embarrassed about this as, if you wish, when you are back on your feet again, you are free to make payment or a donation. 

Other therapy options

You can book private counselling, and pay for each half hour session if you wish. 

You are also welcome to book a mentoring session or attend any of the workshops presented. 

Counselling and mentoring = for individual sessions

Workshops = for groups. 

If you should want these, please go to the Online Booking button below.

Confidentiality

You can be assured that your session is completely confidential.  Notes are made throughout each session and, if you would like a copy of them, these will be available for you.  

Average wait-time for therapy is around 5 to 10 days after registration, but sometimes sooner.